So a lot of guys fantasize about the fact that they are really good with women even when they are not. Some guys are total naturals and others (like I used to be) get totally nervous. They don’t know how to approach girls at club or bars and they freeze up and flip out.
A hot girl can cause approach anxiety in any guy, but it doesn’t have to be that way. One of the most attractive 2 traits a man can possess to make this easier is competence and confidence. It shouldn’t be any surprise that women find confident men attractive.
But there is a big difference between being confident and being an arrogant egotist and acting like you own the club. That’s going to far. Learning how to approach girls naturally and effectively breeds confidence. It is the act of being competent that makes you more self assure and women love that in men. I think it’s pretty universally true for all women in fact.
Being a guy, it’s easy to get wrapped up in the thought that you have to have the best car, house, job or looks in order to learn how to approach girls easily. But in fact that’s not the case. Many guys even try to fake it until they make it and although that can work sometimes, other times it ends up looking like you’re trying way to hard. The key is to be naturally confident and cool.
I’ll bring up the term “neg” right now because although using a negative remark to bring down a hot girl a couple notches can help, it’s not how to approach girls, you do it once you’re in set and a girl proves that she needs to have her ego adjusted down just a little bit. Believe it or not, most girls still want to be respected and you can go very far with most of them if you show a little respect.
Approaching women becomes much easier when you know you’re high value and you respect her value as well. So now that you are learning how to approach girls, you are probably thinking about how to keep the conversation going once you get in there, it’s really not that hard, ask open ended questions that challenge her and get her talking. If you do this right you’ll only have to talk about 20% of the time and just stand there and nod your head as she talks your ear off.
So approaching women does take practice, like anything to begin to get good at it and develop the confidence needed to take your game to the next level. But soon you’ll realize it was really a very irrational fear in the first place and it was really no big deal.
Of course, if you want a short cut, sure fire method to learn how to approach girls in any nightclub or bar situation, you can always try the Hiroshima Opener developed by Brad Jackson which is designed to annihilate any approach anxiety and make you the life of the party very easily.
